Married Life

It is the duty of every Muslim to follow the Islamic laws not only in matters of prayers and fasting but in all his actions. Islam has well defined rules about marriage and sex too. So if you want to follow Islam fully, then you must know the Islamic...

It is the duty of every Muslim to follow the Islam...

Islam allowed in principle dissolution of marriage in all three situations of discord; and thus satisfied human nature. But, at the same time, it has imposed so many conditions that divorce becomes hard to perform. For example, the husband must be ad...

Islam allowed in principle dissolution of marriage...

As separation is the result of irreconcilable discord, it may be of the same three types which were mentioned in section 34. 1. Talaq: This is usually translated as 'divorce'. When the husband is fed up with the misbehaviour of the wife and wants to ...

As separation is the result of irreconcilable disc...

Some discords become very complicated and defy all solutions, and family-life becomes extremely intolerable. In such cases, only two alternatives remain 1. to leave the couple in the same condition, which in the words of the Qur'an is: "The torment o...

Some discords become very complicated and defy all...

As was mentioned earlier, women's feelings dominate their intellect. If a girl is not brought up properly according to Islamic ethics, she is apt to become hot-tempered and sharp-tongued. On the other hand, a man is not so dominated by emotions. Ther...

As was mentioned earlier, women's feelings dominat...

Islam is aware that philosophical theories alone do not pave the road to a better life. It is the practical laws and codes which bring the peace in a household. Ethical sermons can be of no benefit to common man if they are not firmly based on common...

Islam is aware that philosophical theories alone d...

If the wife neglects her duties and gives trouble to the husband, then, three cures have been prescribed step by step. Allah says in the Qur'an ... And as to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them, and (then) refu...

If the wife neglects her duties and gives trouble ...

al-Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq (a.s.) said: I am sure the more a man becomes good in this thing (i.e., Faith and Islam), the more his love to (his) women increases. The ayah: "And He has put Love and Mercy between you" shows that matrimonial love is the Gra...

al-Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq (a.s.) said: I am sure the...

... and they (women) have rights similar to the rights against them, accroding to what is equitable, but men have a degree (of advantage) over them, and Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise. (Qur'an, 2:228) This ayah explodes the myth of so-called "slaver...

... and they (women) have rights similar to the ri...

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they (i.e., men) support them ( women) from their means... (Qur'an, 4:34) This ayah covers in a nut-shell all the principles ...

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, b...

It is clear that, so far as the safety and development of the human race is concerned, every human being has two important functions to perform : (1) Pro-creation, i. e., maintaining the population of human beings so that human race is not faced with...

It is clear that, so far as the safety and develop...

We must remember that a rule, based on tyranny or injustice, can never be stable. Therefore, the foundation of the husband's authority has been laid not on fear or awe, but on love. Allah says: And among His signs is this that He created for you mate...

We must remember that a rule, based on tyranny or ...

It was mentioned in Part Two that the parents are the metaphorical Lords children. There is no exception to this rule, so far as boys are concerned. But as for girls, after marriage the parents' Lordship comes to an end and they come under the domain...

It was mentioned in Part Two that the parents are ...

The above discussion brings us to the benefits of marriage and the philosophy of the matrimonial bond. Marriage is one of the fundamental sociological institutions. Mankind, since its very beginning, has kept to it without any disruption. Even the so...

The above discussion brings us to the benefits of ...

Uptil now we have been looking at the natural boundary line between the responsibilities of man and woman. Now, let us see how Islam - the Natural Religion - has safe-guarded that boundary. It was mentioned earlier that Islam wants to educate boys in...

Uptil now we have been looking at the natural boun...

... They ( wives) are your garment and you are their garment ... (Qur'an, 2:187) While the "family" is the foundation of civilization and society, the relationship of husband and wife and defining their mutual rights and duties is the foundation of f...

... They ( wives) are your garment and you are the...

Divorce is allowed in cases when there exist conditions in the woman or the man which cannot be corrected for and make the continuation of the marriage difficult. In such cases, the couple and their relatives should not worsen the conditions, and not...

Divorce is allowed in cases when there exist condi...

Divorce is not good. It is despised by God, the Prophet, and the Imams unless it is for a religiously acceptable reason. Divorcing based on the man or the woman's lust is immoral, inhumane, irreligious, and disrespectful to the other party. Here I sh...

Divorce is not good. It is despised by God, the Pr...

Once I traveled to Boroojerd to preach for ten nights. I wished to get more informed about the great Muslim scholar Ayatullah Boroojerdy. A ninety-year old man explained to me that his mother really tried to always perform her ablutions before breast...

Once I traveled to Boroojerd to preach for ten nig...

A major factor in strengthening the ties of mutual life is dependent upon the woman respecting her husband's rights. The wife should only consider God and the Hereafter and not let anyone else interfere in regards to her husband's rights. Others may ...

A major factor in strengthening the ties of mutual...

1- Providing the means for living The Prophet (Pbuh) said one must provide the foodstuffs and clothing of his wife in the best manner. Imam Sajjad said: Going to the market and buying one Durham of meat which my wife desires is better than freeing a ...

1- Providing the means for living The Prophet (Pbu...