Parenting

A person was leading an aged blind man by hand with a walking pace which was faster than the latter could conveniently keep up with. As the person was walking by the side of the blind man, he was not pulling but seen pushing the handicapped for- ward...

A person was leading an aged blind man by hand wit...

There was the primary phase, to start with, which then inevitably opened the doors to the two subsequent phases leading to the graduation. The parents would more often than not decline permission to the daughter unfairly as a tradition when she was a...

There was the primary phase, to start with, which ...

The answer from the parents was negative when the adolescent daughter asked for permission to attend a late-night party of girlfriends the following day. And yet a couple of her friends came in time to pick her up. Smartly dressed for the party, the ...

The answer from the parents was negative when the ...

Talking about a small child's "initial concept" of Allah, one person was reminiscing his childhood's mis-concept. A member in the family died. His father had an explanation: Someone called Allah took him away. This information created a fear in him o...

Talking about a small child's "initial concept" of...

An office-messenger who was sent to collect some important papers was asked to come back for them precisely in 20 minutes because of the urgency. When he came back in ten minutes instead. he was asked to return once again in ten minutes. He reappeare...

An office-messenger who was sent to collect some i...

Congregation There always comes a time when a child is seen old enough to be taken for the first time to a mosque. He has some knowledge of tahaarat (cleanliness) and ehteraam (respect) for the mosque. Incidentally, that is also the age when the chil...

Congregation There always comes a time when a chil...

Attention & Compliance Many years ago a father, accompanied by his son, visited me for a professional advice. He introduced himself as a landlord. The son appeared to be in his late twenties. On the conclusion of a satisfactory consultation. the fath...

Attention & Compliance Many years ago a father, ac...

The incidents of children shooting down fellow-students in the schools are horrible, but not quite inexplicable. The former are most-likely the victims of the 1nferiority complex in a society which believes in an unrestricted freedom for children. Th...

The incidents of children shooting down fellow-stu...

On the contrary, whatever the ups and downs in the child's graph of performances, he should be encouraged to invite friends home and allowed the laxity or latitude of acting like a boss of the house in their presence, so as to assist him to build up ...

On the contrary, whatever the ups and downs in the...

CAUTION: The few examples of various shades of the complex catalogued herein are from such broad general experience as is common in the society. They have been "framed" only to illustrate the fluid nature of the behavioural traits. IMPORTANT: It is i...

CAUTION: The few examples of various shades of the...

A young person enters a crowded mosque or imambara through the front door a sermon or preaching is going on. Believing that all eyes are on him, he unconsciously touches his nose once or twice with his hand before he finds a place This is not an infe...

A young person enters a crowded mosque or imambara...

Let us conclude the discussion by the comments on the following quotation from a good authority on the natural aspect of fear in the children: "Another characteristic of the child's personality is the presence of many fears. These fears result from u...

Let us conclude the discussion by the comments on ...

A child on his first day in the school leaves his desk, walks to his class teacher and whispers to her something which she fails to understand until later. The child was using that funny word which was coined for him by the parents for "toilet" since...

A child on his first day in the school leaves his ...

A child was visited at home by his friend. That night the child declined to sleep in his room. He insisted on joining the parents in their bedroom. The fear of his room was triggered when the friend asked the child if he was not afraid to sleep so cl...

A child was visited at home by his friend. That ni...

A prisoner misbehaving in the prison is sometimes punished by a confinement in a solitary cell. Sometimes the prisoner shouts to satisfy himself that he spoke. at least to the wall. The human ability to speak is the Creator's blessing. To be able to ...

A prisoner misbehaving in the prison is sometimes ...

18. One of the duties of parents is to foster the innate nature of telling the truth in children. Their behaviour in the house should be such that this becomes a habit. However, this is one of the more difficult areas of raising a child and attention...

18. One of the duties of parents is to foster the ...

Below are some points to help both parents and children memorise the Qur’an, so that this honourable act will provide continuous benefits forever, inshalla-h (swt). 1. Start memorisation of the Noble Qur’an with children at a young age, as it is said...

Below are some points to help both parents and chi...

1. Conception, the pregnancy period and the mentality of the parents all have an effect on the child in this area. As well as following the recommendations mentioned in this manual, the following things are emphasized: eating the tabarruk (blessed fo...

1. Conception, the pregnancy period and the mental...

a. Mothers should be careful that when tending to the cleanliness of their children (e.g. giving them baths), even newborns, other children are not present, especially those who are of a different gender. b. From childhood, parents should not play wi...

a. Mothers should be careful that when tending to ...

1. Give gifts to your daughter(s) first. 2. Play with your children. 249 This has an important effect in the training and nurturing of your child. Our leaders in Islam have stressed the importance of this issue, and recommended it highly to Muslims. ...

1. Give gifts to your daughter(s) first. 2. Play w...

It is narrated that the life of a child is bound by ‘Aqi-qah 205, and if it is not carried out, it exposes one to tribulation and death. If delayed, it is sunnah on the father until the bulugh of the child, and after bulugh, it is sunnah on the child...

It is narrated that the life of a child is bound b...